Sex after baby?

I have been so scatterbrained and busy I just realized that I haven't finished this post on sex postpartum!! Duhhh it's such a huge topic I gotta do it.

At your six week PP visit, your OBGYN will make sure, physically, you're all healed up but just because she says your body is ready for sex doesn't mean you are. 

I know personally, I wasn't a fan of the idea. I was finally getting my body back and back in control of it; I was going to have to relearn it and figure out what is my "new normal". My hormones were still in a tail spin and I felt about as sexy as a stump.

Eric was great about not pressuring me to have sex, but he didn't want me to keep feeling like I was unattractive so he'd make passes at me to reassure me that how I felt wasn't how I looked. I felt so bad because I wanted to want to have sex but I couldn't get my body and mind on the same page, and he was dying. Try not to take a persistent significant other's advances the wrong way; they aren't being inconsiderate of your feelings and they aren't only thinking of themselves. Remember, you're in a partnership, he has needs like you have needs and if he's going to respect your boundaries you've got to respect his attraction to you.

After giving birth, it's totally normal to feel like your vagina is strictly for business-- I pushed a 10 lb baby outta there, I'm not wanting anything to do with down there! Haha I went ahead and tried to have sex a few days after my 6 week well, but I couldn't have been dryer if I tried. But that's normal too!

As Eric worked with me, sometimes he felt like it was something he was doing wrong. I had to explain to him that it's not that I'm not attracted to him, it's that I'm not attracted to me. It's hard to be into someone else when all you can think is "ugh I feel gross. I wonder if he's thinking about how gross I am too".

I'm 4 months PP now and at times it's touch and go but for the most part things are settling down for me sexually. I'm breast feeding so that keeps my hormones on a roller coaster but it doesn't kill my libido entirely. Be communicative with your partner about: what feels good, what doesn't feel good, whether doing something different would help or being honest about why/what is keeping you from feeling "in the mood". That will help wonders and keep you guys from feeling resentful; he won't think you're just making excuses or don't find him attractive, and you won't be upset because he keeps pushing for sex.